Thursday, September 25, 2014

To be married

I read a blog post recently on what it was like for that blogger to be married to her Husband.
While I’ve only been married for a few months, S and I have been together for a long time, so I feel like I can comment on what it’s like to know marriage and know my Husband.
Since we got married, S has worked a lot. By a lot, I mean that sometimes he isn’t home until I am in bed and he’s also had to work some weekends. For a while, I wondered if I’d ever have a normal marriage again where I got to see him every night…until I realised that there is no ‘normal’. This is a season we are going through. He works hard for the business he works for and we reap the rewards in the long run. Just because life is busy now, doesn’t mean it will be busy always. And so we learn to let life run its course while adapting and changing to accommodate, rather than fight against the changes.
And so, to know what it is to be married and be in a relationship with S.
- I know when the alarm goes off, he’ll still sleep in for another 10 minutes.
- I know that he loves good food just as much as me.
- I will watch the strange movies he picks because I know he enjoys them.
- To know that when he comes home from work, he’ll have a little yogurt to tie him over until dinner.
- To laugh at his jokes.
- To not be able to breathe from laughing at his jokes.
- To know that without his morning coffee, his mood will be down.
- To always take his coins.
- To know when I need encouragement, he will give it freely and honestly.
- To know when I need support, he is there.
- To have a fan that knows everything about me.
- To be a family. To share a home.
- To annoy him and know that he won’t snap.
- To chat all day long and still have stuff to talk about when we get home.
And so much more.
Being married to S is wonderful and I can't wait to see how the chapters in our life turn out.


  1. I love this post. You're right, there is no normal. I had an expectation and idea of how my marriage would be; I wanted us to travel, eat at posh restaurants, weekend trips. Falling pregnant a couple of months before we married changed all that but in a way that marriage is far more fulfilling than I thought it would be.

  2. Oh so beautiful. It's true, it's all the little things in the realtionship that builds a marriage, not the rare big gestures that get oohed and aahed over. I have been successfully brought over to the dark side and now have watched and cen reference correctly the Star Wars series. That's how much I love my Husband.